For Christian dating singles, to live upto the modern times of challenges and temptations, it is important to come out unscathed through such tests by following simple steps in a good dating environment.
Christian Dating Tips to build a Strong , lasting Relationship !
- Pray before you go for a date– Prayer is the most important constituent to help a relationship. Before leaving your home to meet with your date, it is indeed a good step to spend some time on your knees asking God to help you to honor Him and your date. Prayer can always be your shield and help you to ward off any wrong doing. It can also help your mindset and your focus with your date.
- Get talking – Talking helps you to know each other better. there is no better way than talking to know someone. However it is better to talk about each other than about a host of other unrelated topics. The more you get talking, the more idea you get about each other.
- Be Friends first! – This tip may be the most important of them all. Being friends builds a unique bond between two people and cannot be taken for granted. It is important to note that until you are married the person you are dating he/she could be some one else’s future mate. If you choose to keep your date relationship friendly, it could help you to have a gradual shift from being a friend to being a life partner rather than jump to the life partner mode immediately. Friendship helps to build a trust. And after all isn't it a fantastic feeling to marry your best friend?
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Honor God with all your heart The ultimate aim of our being on earth is to honor God with our actions which he sees very clearly although we may not know it. All our actions should reflect God's teaching and we must strive that our actions do not contradict God's teaching.Prayer is an intimate conversation with God and can draw two people together in ways not intended if you are not careful. It’s better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas and forbidden things..
- Avoid kissing on a date – This may be tough in such a modern world but we must try and avoid the kiss as it is a meeting of two bodies. If you follow this tip, it can help you with the rest of the tips which can be easy if this is followed. So untill the date of marriage, keep the kiss as the first suspense and when you kiss on your wedding day, it would be the most wonderful experience you ever imagined and you will be thankful to yourself and me for it.
- I know some will consider this abjectly ridiculous but before you have fun with that thought it may be worthwhile to note the following when it comes to kissing.
A kiss tends to to sexually stimulate a man (and woman) instantly. It is the initial physical stimulus which leads to other sexual activity
If you aren’t kissing then you won’t become tempted to take things to a more intimate level. You’ll be protecting yourself and the purity of your date.
If a Christian man is kissing his date and it gives him an erection (often just the possibility of a kiss can do this), is God or his date being honored by this action?
Is this healthy for the man to get sexually aroused time after time without sexual release? When men become sexually aroused a large amount of blood flows to the genitals and If ejaculation does not occur, the build up of blood can hurt.
A kiss will surely break down certain barriers and leave you in a vulnerable position that could ultimately destroy your relationship with your date and disengage you from a close stroll with God. Self-control is clearly the better option.
Just think how magical and triumphant that first kiss will be if it is saved for your wedding day!
- Treat each other with the due respect– If you respect the person you are with then you won’t say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself "what would Jesus do?" and then do it!
If you have read the above tips, try and use them in your dating situations rather than just read them for the sake of reading. Dating can be a wonderful experience and the joy of loving someone is undescribable. If you came in quest of these dating tips and landed onto this page then surely you have the desire to honor your date and honor God with the choices you will make while dating with someone.
I hope and pray that these dating tips will change the way people date in pursuit of temporary happiness and actually use these tips to enrich their life for a permanent bonding relationship while their actions honour God and his word.
So it is not about our age. Young or old, the battle of our flesh is present in all of us and we must move against this battle and merge victorious in the eyes of God. Especially when we are dating . We must respect God's word and also respect the person with whom we are dating.