The wish or the need for a Christian to date, basically stems from the desire to find a companion in one’s life. Such companionship may be directed towards a good friendship, for discussion on various issues, to build a relationship or towards the ultimate goal of taking forward a dating meeting towards marriage.
Broadly, dating as a subject is viewed mainly from the romantic angle and for the marriage quotient. However although dating is the first step in the direction of a Christian marriage. it is not necessary that Christian singles who meet on the first date should start planning about their wedding. In fact the mention of a wedding or marriage on the first date has the potential of scaring your dating partner or making the date period a very embarrassing one. However the intention of dating should be for the purpose of marriage and Christians should never lose sight of this thought even on the first date.
When Christians date they are expected to follow a different yardstick compared to other forms of dating that we see all over the internet. Christian values and ideals are of great importance in Christian dating. There is always a visible difference between Christian dating and other types of dating. So this concept should be very clear to Christian singles before starting the dating sojourn.
Why Christian dating
Christian dating means to follow Christian ethics when you are going on a date. And the definition of a date is not merely for the fun part of it, but for the intention of marriage. Right from the time you narrow down your selection of people while viewing their profiles over the internet, you should make a decision that your intention to date an opposite Christian single is for the purpose of marriage and for no other. This will keep you away from the desires of sin and make you more focused in your endeavour to build a good life ahead for yourself.
Managing your dating list
Firstly when you go online on a christian dating website, you will first need to note down all the prospective people who meet your desirable criteria. Next, brainstorm and slim down the list depending on micro issues that you can see would not agree with you anyway. Then give a preferential bias to people who live the closest to you for the first phase of your dating processs. Your next pahse should cover the people who are farther from your place of stay and so on.
Eventually you will be meeting all these prospects and after your first meeting you will probably slice this list to one third or one fourth its size. You will probably be left with a handful of prospects now.may be even three or four.
Your first date blues
When you make your list narrowed down to a few prospects and whenever you decide to meet them it is necessary that you do not commit to any one of them on your first date or even on your first few dates.. Rather the first dates should be used to get to know each other at the basic levels. Discussions on various topics will also give you an insight into the personality of each other during these meetings. While you may not divulge personal information on your first date, it is always prudent to subtly find out some details about your Christian single partner dating with you, without being too introspecting or intrusive. Do not be too personal but make sure your questions cover a broad category and arena which can be indicative of the persons personality.
Decide and do it well
When you eventually decide from among the three or four options before you , make sure you reflect on your decision well. Analyse carefully and if needed take some more time with yourself or meet the prospects one more time if possible and if it is not a distress to them. When you do make your final decision, do not waste time to reveal that decision to your prospective dating partner. Remember just like you, your dating partner is also looking at other singles to find a soul mate and you should not delay too much. Neither should you hurry.
How to break the bad news
It is also important to know how to close the door on the other unfavorable dating partners in your list whom you had not decided not to consider. Make sure that the news of disconnecting from them is not made in a harsh manner. Be as kind and gentle in your outlook as possible and be frank and candid in your explanations about the decisions that you are making. Make sure that they do not get hurt or are resentful. If you explain to them correctly there are chances that they will take it in their stride. Do not make unnecessary promises to them which might give them hope of you reversing your decision. Just close it in the most dignified manner and it will give you peace in your heart and a sense of respect in their heart.
Put an end to your dating graph
Next, do not go on more dates and discontinue your dating subscription altogether. You don’t want any more temptations with any more Christian singles because you have found your partner – for life. So stick with this partner and nurse your relationship to help it grow. Pour all your love and make sure that nothing comes in the way for your relationship to blossom. Wedding bells will surely be on their way if you follow the Christian dating ethics and rules that we are called to follow by God.
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