While a break-up is often a part of life, one of the most daunting things a man can find himself in is how to handle a situation in times of breakup with a woman. Its a tough experience you actually do not want to handle in your lifetime.
There are various reasons that a guy might have to break up . The relationship may not interest him, there may be a disconnect, lack of attraction or plain irritation with your partner.
The bottom line in whichever case is that it is a fact brewing inside you that you are not actually happy with the person that you are currently seeing and you would like to end it all.
While breaking it up with a candid discussion is the best way forward, sometimes it is just not possible especially in long distance relationships. So if it cannot be done in person, one must try to do it over the telephone. It is however advisable not to resort to using an sms , an email or even a letter, as writing can be much severe to the person who receives the message. Importantly a letter gives a predictability which appears cowardly and unfair. The breakup is better if it is a conversation and not a mere message.
One of the things that men find spontaneous is to use lies as a means to wiggle out of a difficult situation like breakups. You would find men saying something like "I still love You". It is better to be truthful as the lies can hurt more in the long run. While statements like "I still want to be friends," "I'll always love you," "I still care about you," etc. will make the person feel better in the short term, such goodie goodie approaches, can only make things worse in the long run if they're not sincere.
It is therefore best to say what you feel, and not what you think is pleasing to hear. It is also advisable not to provide the person with false reasons for the break up. When they find out that those reasons were untrue, and that you relied on lies for your clarifications, it would only make things worse for both of you. Never use predictable lines such as "it's not you, it's me," because even if it's true, it's too stale and overused.
There are various reasons that a guy might have to break up . The relationship may not interest him, there may be a disconnect, lack of attraction or plain irritation with your partner.
The bottom line in whichever case is that it is a fact brewing inside you that you are not actually happy with the person that you are currently seeing and you would like to end it all.
While breaking it up with a candid discussion is the best way forward, sometimes it is just not possible especially in long distance relationships. So if it cannot be done in person, one must try to do it over the telephone. It is however advisable not to resort to using an sms , an email or even a letter, as writing can be much severe to the person who receives the message. Importantly a letter gives a predictability which appears cowardly and unfair. The breakup is better if it is a conversation and not a mere message.
One of the things that men find spontaneous is to use lies as a means to wiggle out of a difficult situation like breakups. You would find men saying something like "I still love You". It is better to be truthful as the lies can hurt more in the long run. While statements like "I still want to be friends," "I'll always love you," "I still care about you," etc. will make the person feel better in the short term, such goodie goodie approaches, can only make things worse in the long run if they're not sincere.
It is therefore best to say what you feel, and not what you think is pleasing to hear. It is also advisable not to provide the person with false reasons for the break up. When they find out that those reasons were untrue, and that you relied on lies for your clarifications, it would only make things worse for both of you. Never use predictable lines such as "it's not you, it's me," because even if it's true, it's too stale and overused.
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