How should a man handle a break up - 3

Often , one gets tempted to allow the relationship to float around until a better prospect comes along. But this is absolutely to be avoided as prolongation is never going to help either of you in any way.

So when you want to break the news be the gentle man that you are expected to be. Be there in person. Have the basic courtesies and let her know that it has been hard for you to come to this decision but that you don’t feel that the bond is justifying the relationship. Tell her that you would still not be averse to being friends with her and respect her thoughts on this.

One of the most positively brave moves from your part is to sincerely apologize to her for not feeling passionate about the chemistry between the two of you. Say “sorry” and wish that things were different. It serves to take the impact way from the rejection that accompanies such break-ups.

In short be direct and straightforward with the process s of break up. Express your sincerity to be on peaceful terms with her. Give enough indicators to suggest that you would never bad mouth her to anyone, no matter what. Give her enough of rope to understand that you are willing her to dictate terms. Make her feel comfortable in her heart that she is not being rejected but the problem is with your feelings. Not with her abilities.

How should a man handle a break-up - 2

Remember the break up is a painful moment and therefore it is not the time to bring up all the things she erred upon. Those habits might be annoying habits which may have catalyzed the break-up but the person will be better off not to hear more criticisms attributed to her on such a hard day. If those things had really affected your relationship you should have been good enough to have told them to her earlier when the relationship was in better times.

You must have heard it earlier from people that breaking up is the hard part to do. And surely they weren't kidding about it. It's naturally hard to express to someone that your feelings have changed and you don’t feel the same anymore, However it is always sensible to do it in a way that causes the minimal of pain possible.

The important thing to remember in this whole thing is not to delay the breakup once you have made up your mind about it. The moment you know that you are not in it, the most sensible thing to do is is avoid it and keep the relationship from going deeper and cut things off quickly instead of misleading the girl.

How should a man handle a break up - I

While a break-up is often a part of life, one of the most daunting things a man can find himself in is how to handle a situation in times of breakup with a woman. Its a tough experience you actually do not want to handle in your lifetime.

There are various reasons that a guy might have to break up . The relationship may not interest him, there may be a disconnect, lack of attraction or plain irritation with your partner.

The bottom line in whichever case is that it is a fact brewing inside you that you are not actually happy with the person that you are currently seeing and you would like to end it all.

While breaking it up with a candid discussion is the best way forward, sometimes it is just not possible especially in long distance relationships. So if it cannot be done in person, one must try to do it over the telephone. It is however advisable not to resort to using an sms , an email or even a letter, as writing can be much severe to the person who receives the message. Importantly a letter gives a predictability which appears cowardly and unfair. The breakup is better if it is a conversation and not a mere message.

One of the things that men find spontaneous is to use lies as a means to wiggle out of a difficult situation like breakups. You would find men saying something like "I still love You". It is better to be truthful as the lies can hurt more in the long run. While statements like "I still want to be friends," "I'll always love you," "I still care about you," etc. will make the person feel better in the short term, such goodie goodie approaches, can only make things worse in the long run if they're not sincere.

It is therefore best to say what you feel, and not what you think is pleasing to hear. It is also advisable not to provide the person with false reasons for the break up. When they find out that those reasons were untrue, and that you relied on lies for your clarifications, it would only make things worse for both of you. Never use predictable lines such as "it's not you, it's me," because even if it's true, it's too stale and overused.